perfectionism’s rarely about maintaining high standards; almost always a fear-based defence mechanism
core deception
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armour of “high standards”:
- procrastination usually looks like laziness (watching TV instead of working), which carries heavy burden of guilt
- perfectionism looks like work, allowing for delayed shipping while feeling industrious
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ego protection:
- if idea / project is never finished, it remains pure potential
- can’t be judged / criticised / rejected
- moment it’s live, it becomes real + vulnerable ➡️ perfectionism is a shield against that vulnerability
mental models
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illusion of productivity:
- endless research, tweaking formatting, reorganising folders, etc. feels like progress
- in reality, it’s motion without action
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law of diminishing returns:
- effort required to take something from 0% to 80% is often same amount of effort required to take it from 80% to 90%
- perfectionists spend all energy in that final 20%, where ROI drops off a cliff
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Parkinson’s Law:
- “work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.”
- because a perfectionist’s work is theoretically never perfect, timeline expands infinitely unless artificial boundary is forced on it
in digital gardens
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tool tinkering:
- spending hours customising CSS / downloading new plugins / redesigning tag hierarchies instead of just writing!
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orphan node trap:
- writing massive, comprehensive essay / blog post offline & waiting for it to be “complete” before adding it to garden, completely missing the point of growing small, interconnected atomic ideas over time
antidotes
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define “done” in advance:
- before starting, establish exact criteria for completion
- eg in digital garden: 3 paragraphs + 2 outbound links
- once criteria met, publishing is a MUST
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timeboxing:
- give idea a strict time limit
- eg I’ll write about this concept for 25 mins; whatever’s there gets published with #seedling tag
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embracing iteration:
- a digital garden note is a living document
- can fix typos tomorrow 😅
quotes
- “Perfect is the enemy of good.” — Voltaire
- “Perfectionism is a serial killer of happiness.” — Brené Brown
- “If you’re not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you’ve launched too late.” — Reid Hoffman
related to
- publishing imperfectly ➡️ cure for this specific form of procrastination!
- The Resistance: Steven Pressfield’s concept of invisible force that prevents creative work