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perfectionism’s rarely about maintaining high standards; almost always a fear-based defence mechanism

core deception

  • armour of “high standards”:

    • procrastination usually looks like laziness (watching TV instead of working), which carries heavy burden of guilt
    • perfectionism looks like work, allowing for delayed shipping while feeling industrious
  • ego protection:

    • if idea / project is never finished, it remains pure potential
    • can’t be judged / criticised / rejected
    • moment it’s live, it becomes real + vulnerable ➡️ perfectionism is a shield against that vulnerability

mental models

  • illusion of productivity:

    • endless research, tweaking formatting, reorganising folders, etc. feels like progress
    • in reality, it’s motion without action
  • law of diminishing returns:

    • effort required to take something from 0% to 80% is often same amount of effort required to take it from 80% to 90%
    • perfectionists spend all energy in that final 20%, where ROI drops off a cliff
  • Parkinson’s Law:

    • “work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.”
    • because a perfectionist’s work is theoretically never perfect, timeline expands infinitely unless artificial boundary is forced on it

in digital gardens

  • tool tinkering:

    • spending hours customising CSS / downloading new plugins / redesigning tag hierarchies instead of just writing!
  • orphan node trap:

    • writing massive, comprehensive essay / blog post offline & waiting for it to be “complete” before adding it to garden, completely missing the point of growing small, interconnected atomic ideas over time

antidotes

  • define “done” in advance:

    • before starting, establish exact criteria for completion
    • eg in digital garden: 3 paragraphs + 2 outbound links
    • once criteria met, publishing is a MUST
  • timeboxing:

    • give idea a strict time limit
    • eg I’ll write about this concept for 25 mins; whatever’s there gets published with #seedling tag
  • embracing iteration:

    • a digital garden note is a living document
    • can fix typos tomorrow 😅

quotes

  • “Perfect is the enemy of good.” — Voltaire
  • “Perfectionism is a serial killer of happiness.” — Brené Brown
  • “If you’re not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you’ve launched too late.” — Reid Hoffman
  • publishing imperfectly ➡️ cure for this specific form of procrastination!
  • The Resistance: Steven Pressfield’s concept of invisible force that prevents creative work